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1. Why are you asking them out, is it for the right
reasons and what do you expect as a result of them saying yes or no?
2. Be prepared that the person you ask may say no and in
which case do not take the rejection personally.
3. When asking someone out choose your moment carefully
and practise what you might say in advance so that you don't appear tongue-tied.
4. If the person you ask says yes, ensure you already
have thought of a place, date and time for the date so that you display signs of
thoughfulness.
5. Be prepared for the person asking why you want to
date them so that you are able to flatter and create a sense of trust
immediately. People can be wary and they may want to know some reasosn behind
your request. Better, anticipate this by saying "would you like to come to
dinner, I have always thought you are great fun..".
6. Make sure that your request for a date does not
pressurize the person in any way. If they want to think about it, let them. But
don't chase.
7. Make sure that when you ask someone on a date you
smile and keep things fun and happy. Being confident and smiley will elicit a
far more positive response.
8. Always have an alternative date and time or location
in mind should the person be unsure of their diary. Giving a person a choice is
often a marketing masterstroke.
9. If the person says no, don't chase for a reason,
simply move on. They may think about things and get back to you with a yes
response later.
10. If you ask someone on a date, make sure that you
actually intend to go through with it. Standing people up is not allowed.
11. If you are being asked out don't play games. If you
need time to consider the offer then say so. If you want to say no, say no. But
do not keep someone hanging on for no reason. You wouldn't like the situation if
it was reversed.
12. Try to avoid dutch-courage such as using alcohol to
boost your courage levels as this will often backfire.
13. Don't ask someone out when they are in a group of
friends. Timing is everything.
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